It is a word that is mentioned in music, movies, and books; it is used when a child explains how much he/she “loves”candy; the word is feared by many men, for the word commitment is a connotative meaning for love. Love is used so loosely, so frequently, and in such ways, that it has become confusing and cannot be simply understood.
Some definitions of the term fromdictionary.com (before I move onto my own definition)
I will bet anything, that after these definitions you are still confused about love. I mean, definition number 4 doesn’t really define at all, does it? Definition 3, “sexual passion or desire” well then that must mean that every human is in love. As for definition 2, I can feel a warm attachment to my readers whenever they purchase my book. Definition one, there is a problem with this one, because you’re not answering a question, by bringing up two more of them; what is passion, what is tender, it’s really just making it even more complicated.
For centuries people have been trying to define the word; Shakespeare has written world famous plays, songs of love have been sung about it for millions worldwide. However, when you hear the word “love, can you connect with it? Can you really understand Romeo and Juliet or watch the notebook and be able to describe it with words more than just “so romantic”? Or do you just think you do?
I did not fully understand these various concepts of “love” until just a few days ago. I was confused about the meaning of love.
Love cannot be defined, my first conclusion. Yes, feel free to have your own definition of the word, just be sure to stick to one, and only one definition,until you’re absolutely sure that your mental dictionary should be updated.
The reason love cannot be defined, is because love is different for everyone. Unfortunately,guidelines for this word, this feeling (whatever it is for you), do not exist.No one can tell you how to love, what to love, what can be loved and what cannot. Because “love” is a feeling; you can only imagine the various types of love when combining all individuals, combinations of feelings, which make up the feeling of love. So how can it possibly be defined when we love in such different ways. Love is like a fingerprint.
So how do you know when you are in love? Well it is difficult to explain,because you will not know it until you feel it for yourself.
Your entire world changes. I really mean it, keep in mind, not your current situation,but your entire world literally changes. The way you see things changes. You can be in the ugliest city in the world, yet find beauty in it. You look at everything in front of you, like you have never seen it before. Things seem sharper and more defined. Colors are brighter, and simply more colorful. All types of sounds are music to your ears. Each breath in smog filled Los Angeles is like breathing cool winter air. All your senses, renewed, as if you were reborn, living a brand new life. Smiles are endless.
The things that happen to your thoughts- You wake up thinking of the person you are in love with, and you sleep with that person as your final thought, plus every minute in between. Sometimes you are lucky to dream of them. Even when you don’t try to think, the thought of that person still lurks in your mind, only not as loudly. You can’t wait to see that person again,which causes a very bad case of anxiety. And when you are finally with them, it feels like you are home after a very long trip away. Every minute without that person feels like hours, you watch the clock and count the seconds. You work strenuously; you find things to do if you’re without work, just so the time will fly by for you to see that person again. And if by chance, you don’t talk to this person again, you feel as if something is missing.
Your ideology: You begin to think about how everything has happened, how it can all be possible. And you realize that if something like this exists,then things like magic, energy, destiny, law of attraction, heaven and hell, it can also be possible. Because the feeling of true love, feels out of this world, almost too good to be true.
Being Mutual- There are people in this world who feel this without receiving the same feeling back. If the person, who loves you, loves you the same way as you do, and feels as you do as explained above, then you have really hit the jackpot. When love is mutual, it is more than just two individuals in love, it is a bond, and it is a connection; two souls as one.
What happens after the initial stages of new found love- Itdoesn’t go away. In my experience it becomes stronger; you love the person the next day more than you did the previous. Yes even after the changing of your world, it becomes better, daily. At this moment, this is when the terms“soul mates” come in. You realize, without that person, nothing will ever be the same.
Relationship Problems: They don’t really exist, because nothing can triumph this type of love. If the person you love runs away after minor difficulties, then I would hate to tell you, but that person was not in love with you in the first place. And believe me; almost all difficulties seem minor after you have gone through the feelings mentioned above. All your own personal problems, whether financial, social, or even internal, don’t seem like problems anymore.
How can it all happen? How can your world change, how can you love more anymore. To best explain this, it is simple, happiness. You see the world, and you live life, through happiness, ultimate happiness. In love, you begin to understand the meaning of life. This love makes you happier than anything else, that person, is all that you need. Everything that you thought made you happy is just a complement to your relationship with that person.
How to find love? The best part about love is that it will find you.You can find people, you can meet people, but you cannot look or seek out this love specifically. Believe me; it will all come naturally, very unexpectedly. By this I mean “you will know love when you see it”.
I hope that everyone finds their love,because your life will never be the same again. When you want to spend every moment, every breath, near that person not just to do something specifically,just to be, you know you are in love. That person does not have to tell you they love you for you to know, because if it is true love as I believe it so, then all it will take is one look at that persons eyes, face,one touch, and you will feel that he/she loves you, because it is mutual. After you feel this love, Shakespeare’s true meanings will come out, the Notebook will no longer only be a chick flick and music will never be the same.
So now, can you say you love your car? Can you say you love a certain food? Can you say you love your new shirt?I suggest you only say you love all those things if and only if you are really in love with someone, because by loving them and being loved; you will soon love everything else because of it.
If you have never loved, you have never lived.