Sometimes it seems like the source of all the major suffering in life.
Breakups, loneliness, failed marriages, ‘he doesn’t love me back!’… all those things are tragedies that often are so hard to deal with.
Enjoying a loving supportive relationships with your spouse can be the major source of happiness. If you have this secure foundation, even if you encounter some difficulties with business or career, the problems are much easier to deal with. After all, yo...u have a person who supports you and understands you.
Happy family is not an easy thing to obtain. In fact, it requires more work and skills then running a successful business does. And the worst thing is that no one teaches us how to find a partner and how to build healthy relationships with mutual respect and support.
We are not taught the Relationships subject in school. For most of us our parents too can’t be a big help, because they don’t know it either.
So we learn by making mistakes.
And this is PAINFUL.
It was never my intent to teach this stuff, I was learning it for myself, wanting to build a happy family. A few months ago I’ve heard something that made me think. Someone said “if you learned something, tested it, and found out that it worked, you must share it with others, otherwise you become a miser who is unwilling to share a treasure.”
Okay, I will share some pearls of wisdom that I learned over the years… And I will start with one pearl for those who are still looking for someone special.
Here it comes:
Stop looking for your soul-mate!!!!
Yes, that’s right. Stop focusing so much on finding your true love and constantly asking yourself “Is this the One? Is this the One?”
Focus on yourself first. Do you have the qualities that your ideal partner is looking for?
If you are a woman – are you loving, kind, caring about everyone?
If you are a man – are you confident, responsible, good at decision making?
Take a critical look at yourself and answer honestly – if right now you’d met your perfect match, would he/she be interested in you?
If your answer is no, then get to work!!!
Learn what it means to be a woman. Learn what it means to be a man.
Many of us are trapped into thinking “I am the way I am and you must love me.” That is childish and irresponsible attitude!!!
YOU ARE A PROCESS!!!
You change constantly, doesn’t matter if you are aware of it or not. Every day you meet people, you encounter new circumstances that have a certain influence on you, that change your beliefs, your attitudes, your behaviors.
Take control of yourself. You need to develop yourself, you are designed to evolve.
Focus on becoming the better version of yourself, and once you meet Mr. or Miss Right, he/she can’t help it but fall in love with you....