Here's a article by blogger Lakia Nicole which I find very interesting. She writes, "I think I can vouch for all women reading this when I say when we get something so good, we lose the good sense that we have when we try to hold on to it! Especially when it comes to penis.
I’m not just talking about that 'good for the moment'... 'can do without,' mediocre type of penis. The kind of penis I’m describing is the kind that unravels all five of your senses during intercourse. The kind of penis I’m talking about makes us do or say things we wouldn’t normally do. The kind of penis I’m talking about is the kind that our bodies yearn for…like an addict taking one last good hit before detox. Unfortunately, our bodies are sometimes responsible for our toxic behavior, because we choose to satisfy our physical needs before our emotional needs. When that penis is attached to a toxic guy, the emotional damages we cause ourselves as women can have long-lasting effects.
Our bodies is in a constant battle with our minds. We know good and got-damn well we need to leave that toxic guy alone, but we can’t. We can’t because we choose not to.
Your body reminds you with the question…who’s going to make love to you the way that he does?
Your mind replies with….but you deserve to be treated so much better.
Your body responds with….He makes me feel better when I’m with him. He makes me feel whole.
Your mind replies with….but you don’t need a man to make you feel whole or complete.
We don’t often recognize our subconscious fear of being single. As a result, we use the back-breaking sex as the reason for holding onto an unhealthy relationship. A woman with this kind of struggle between her body and her mind is what we like to call 'dickmitized.'
Babygirl is hypnotized by the dick and she doesn’t want to lose it for all the wrong reasons. Most importantly, she doesn’t want to lose that 'good - good' to another woman. It’s that inevitable circumstance that leaves a woman in emotional shambles.
She’s lost herself.
In her gullible mind, a man who fucks her that good MUST be in love with her.
She’s convinced herself that she could help him change his messy ways.
She’s devaluing her worth every time he enters her, knowing he’s gonna be messy the next day.
One good stroke will make an intelligent woman dumb down for love. She’s oblivious to the fact that sex is giving her a false sense of security and a false sense of belonging.
Truth be told…sex should never be the reason why a woman would accept disrespectful behavior from a man who is supposed to love her. Besides, a man won’t change his messy ways if he thinks he’s being clean. One thing’s for certain, two things for sure…he knows he’s clever. Clever enough to keep screwing your brains out (no pun) during “make up” sex, because he knows you aren’t going anywhere.
The sad part about all of this is a lot of us use love as an excuse.
Love has nothing to do with your apparent dickmitization. Your actions scream WEAK. Dude smells your weakness miles away and that’s why he does what he do.
I need my ladies who are being dickmitized to stop dumbing themselves down for men who obviously low-key care about you. Stop equating sex with love and realize that a grown man shouldn’t have to be reminded daily to act right. We let our bodies control us so much, that we don’t realize how much we’re willing to tolerate because we don’t want to be alone.
Please understand that dude is not the only fish in the sea.
Please understand that the more special you think you are, the more basic you become.
Get off the dick, find your self-esteem, and wait on the true love that you deserve..."